Posted by: deborahgilbert42 | August 25, 2011

Love Language

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From the Love Language website:

“everyone he had ever counseled had a “love language,” a primary way of expressing and interpreting love.

Of the countless ways we can show love to one another, five key categories, or five love languages, proved to be universal and comprehensive—everyone has a love language, and we all identify primarily with one of the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.”

You can take a test to see which love language is your primary way of expressing and interpreting love here. Many people have one primary and the others follow in order as they are relevant to you. You may notice that your top two are pretty close together.

Your primary love language(s) are the way that you feel most loved and the way you show love. As you get older and grow your love languages and can change.

Right now my primary love language is receiving gifts, which means I show people I care for them by giving them things and I feel loved when I am given things. My second (which is like one point off from being my primary) is acts of service. I LOVE it when Stefan does something like the dishes or cleans up without me mentioning it.

I am really writing this post because I have been feeling on the neglected side. I am not writing this to make you give me presents (really I am not). But I find it hard sometimes when I see others being given things (especially items we need) and I am sitting here wishing people would give us stuff.

And before you go and judge me I do my best to give others what they need and help them out with what resources that I have. We don’t have a lot of money right now but I do my best with what we have to help others.

Well that is my rant for the day.


Responses

  1. If you lived near me, I would share my garden with you. I have SO MUCH and wish I had someone to give some to. Also, I can empathize with how you feel. I have felt the same many times. Hope you feel better soon :)

    • awww I would love that.

  2. That was really interesting! I did mine and it was kind of like a light bulb for me, because I could see how my husband and I have totally different love languages. If nothing else I will pay more attention and try to see his actions as what they are. To me, food and cleaning are just daily chores but to him, that is showing his love for me. (Having things clean makes me happy, but it doesn’t make a difference which one of us does it so long as it gets done.) I am more into touch and affirmations, which is a place he is more lacking.


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